I can’t really recall when last I sat to read a post as good as the one am about to share with you all.
You know, sometimes you read a funny post on Facebook and at the end the poster will say, “Greediness is not sharing this after reading it”. We know, he is pleading for help.
Sometimes, as well, you come across something meaningful and full of lessons that you don’t even need a plea from the poster to share it with your friends – you just share. This post is one of those.
It was on a faithful September morning, just before our undergraduate magazine, I was surfing nairaland when I saw a very thrilling thread title “What is the best advice given to you by your parents?”
I checked in and, lo and behold, a massive recollection of advice from parents to their kids filled several pages.
Yes! Your guess is right; I want to share them with you.
Alexasomba (m): Before I left for the University my Mum said to me “always remember where you are coming from”. Sounded ordinary at first until it started influencing my decisions. Till this very day based on those words I still think about family especially before making my long term decisions. It’s almost as though she programmed my mind. My Dad used parables a lot and one of them was “you can blame your parents for who you are but you cannot blame them for who you become”. His own words rings like a bell in my head, telling me I’m to take responsibility for my own life.
Olaeffect (m): Be at peace with all men. But always watch your back.
Bitojoe (m): Really value my late mum’s advice. She keeps telling me when she’s still alive, that whatsoever my mind tells me to do, that I should do it. If it is good thought. These words keep me moving everyday.
Krystalxxx (f): Three words from dad always. Determination. Dedication. Devotion. Must always have these three in my life. When I got older he added Decision.
Tobbey (m): Don’t overrate yourself.
Mindworx (m): Me and my dad, we are not close. The first day I entered University, he took me there. Immediately I came down out of the car, he called me and said: ‘Femi, in the school, you will find the library, and in the same school, you will see clubs. You are the architect of your life. I have paid you my dues. All the best.’ Consciously or not, that is what fuelled me through. As for my mum, she prays for me on phone every first day of the month.
Chinziaski (m): He would always end his advice with “my son, always be simple. Simplicity is the best policy.”
Softsparkyy (f): Never soil your reputation in all you do.
Kennygee (f): Whatever you won’t eat, don’t smell it. Mum.
Jaunty (m): The one advice that has made me both successful and responsible was given by my Dad. He told me that “An EXCUSE is like a bribe. Never give an excuse and never take an excuse”. Throughout my school days and now that am working, I always thrive hard to excel because I will never give any excuse for failing, no matter how ‘Good’ the excuse may sound.
Godfullsam (m): My mother always says, ‘Don’t bite more than you can chew and don’t start what you know you cannot finish.’
Anoneism (m): My mum often tells me this, “Physical strength is nothing when compare with mental strength. Be mentally strong my son”.
Searay (m): 1. Man know thyself 2. Be good to any man/woman that comes your way.
Evathyst (f): Dad’s favourite advice; don’t believe all you hear. Don’t say all that you have in mind. Don’t spend all that you have at hand. Don’t eat and sleep the way you want. Don’t depend on other people’s advice all the time. Don’t trust anyone completely and don’t tell anyone of this my advice. I don’t know why I’m telling you people sef.
BenELOHIM7 (m): My dad’s rugged advice really helped me pattern my life. He’d say a man always wanna cry when he’s not like his mates. These words scare me so much.
Missmossy (f): “Always remember the daughter of whom you are. Learn to be yourself amidst the crowd”. It helped me a lot in making different choices.
Adufetohposh (f): On my eighteenth Birthday, my dad said to me; Happy Birthday my Darling princess! You are forever a child to me, but now you are an adult to the world. Henceforth you are responsible for your actions and decisions, so be wise! Those Words always guide me whenever I’m to make any decision.
Ndababa (m): Create a world you are comfortable in.
Yinkeys (m): From My old man: I get lots of advice, can’t remember most of them though 1. Initiative is never taught, develop on it 2. Overconfidence hurts as much as in-confidence.
Ziezy (m): Dad will say 1. Never lend anything you can’t afford to loss 2. Luck favours the prepared. Mum will say 1. Put God first in everything 2. Respect everyone.
Phems (m): My Dad once told me: “If you want anything done, do it yourself”, when I was relying on one of my uncles for my computer training tuition.
Trublvr (f): DAD: 1. Don’t ever count yourself out of the game, even if your boots are off. 2. Don’t tell yourself you can’t do a thing before you even try. 3. Forgive. Move on. Most people simply do not know any better. 4. You have no business competing with anyone but yourself. Be better than you were yesterday, or else you are a failure. MUM: 1. Always keep a bank account just for yourself. 2. You don’t need designer clothes. Just some Omo and an iron. 3. Shop at Tejuosho, but wear your clothes with a V.I. attitude: head high, shoulders back!
Ritux (m): My Mom will always say, ”telling someone I am sorry” will never take anything away from you and will go a long way in solving a big problem that may arise. 2. Never get up from bed without praying.
Ujezeez (m): Education is the key. When you are educated poverty is driven far away from you. And pray at all time. Lastly, be moral.
ModestSam (m): Anytime dad takes us to school (boarding) he would say, ‘this is your inheritance that I’m giving you, if you become useful, you would be useful to yourself. He would tell me and my siblings that he’s working for himself, so that when he grows older, or if he’s ever in need of money, he would convert his assets to cash. We all grew up not looking up to our parents riches, and they (my parents) are very wealthy. MORAL OF THE TALKS: It made us all very hardworking and focused, though we were very very comfortable, and got all we ever asked for.
My mum once called my brother and me after SSCE, and read Deut 28 line by line to the last verse, and then advised us, and we prayed. It was a sobering experience.
Realtol (m): “Assuming my own dad did send me to school I wouldn’t be where I am today. I would be on higher pedestals. Things will soon be all right” This is the word that always come out of my dad’s mouth and whenever he finishes the whole story one would have turn a good boy without any advice.
Neduzze5 (m): From Mum: Stay away from girls. They’re very very deceitful. They can get pregnant for one guy and come and dump it on you. I took my mum’s second advice very very serious and I still do!
Whizjay (m): My mum (in igbo) ”open your ears, you see these girls? All these girls…. Stay away from them oh!! They will ruin your life oh…. Don’t say I did not tell you.”
Bantino (m): Always be positive in life, always speak the truth, work hard and plan for the future. Whatever you do, never you kill or sleep with a married woman.
Scobaba (m): He woke me up by 1am on the 7th of February, 2001 (Mumsy and siblings were still sleeping). I had gained admission to UNN and was to leave Lagos for Enugu by 7am that morning. I was expecting the usual routine of, read your books, go to church, bla bla bla but with a very straight Biafran face, he blurted in Igbo language “Scobaba my son, do not promise any girl marriage until you are ready to get married.” It worked. Thanks pappy.
Femi4 (m): Son! Girls will come after you but don’t ever choose out of pity.
ONESS (f): Do not date married men because if you do another woman will take your husband from you. Do unto others what you want to be done to you.
Nneh1 (f): Dad; what ever you sow you will reap so be mindful of what you sow. Mum; the love of men is in their eyes and not their hearts. Keep your body undefiled till marriage, you will never regret it. Mum; men give with their left hand and collect with their right hand, be very careful. Uncle; in any relationship, try and define it. Uncle; where ever you go, drop your identity and don’t be shy about it, those that love you will come to you.
Kingphemy (m): From Dad: Make sure of whom who will marry, and if possible never divorce her. But definitely don’t ever marry two wives or more otherwise you are only looking for trouble.
Three7Ty9 (m): The best advice I’ve received till date didn’t come from my parents. A senior friend I met during service year. You must trust God like He is all you got and like your life depended on it. Sometimes when things get tough, I hold onto these words for dear life.
Otamayomi1 (f): Mum said “prayer works for all things. Never forget to pray to God your creator. Know whose daughter you are and the home you are going out from.
Ezeibe (m): Be prayerful, never be in a rush, & always ask God for wisdom.
A point came, while putting this piece together, when I felt sombre. Maybe I look like a failure now. I can’t truly recall most of the advice my father gave me; maybe because he talked a lot. My mum always places little emphasis on her words but they weren’t that much. I learnt a lot from school and social media (no joke).
Still, I believed my parents wanted me to just figure things out on my own. Probably, that was why my dad always told us stories.