What would you do differently if you were doing it over again? What would be different if you had four (or more) years to be an undergraduate?
A ton of shit went down during my stay at the university especially during my stay as a first year student. Today, when I think of them, I feel bad. While voicing it over with one of my friends (during our final years) he told me how good I was. Actually, he was trying to convince me.
Just then, I realised how not-so-bad those [university] years were. Still, if I were given the opportunity to start all over, I hope to do much better.
Reflecting over my life as a graduate, I know I never had the best of it. Made many mistakes, took bad decisions, neglected important stuffs and took wrong turns. Looking at it, I know someone else also feel as I do.
You know what I did?
I asked my classmates during our final year examinations, “What would you do better if you were to be a first year student?” As in, if [with the knowledge and experiences you have now] you were to start University again how will you go about it?
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See what they have to say:
To me the problem started with not being in hostel. I missed the studies and ginger from the students over there. I will limit the number of tutorials I attended during my first and second years; from Kelvin to Authority to Chuks and… just so much to distract you. It left me in a confused state that I was blank during examinations. Also, I had a lifestyle I regretted; a lot of partying, smoking and gambling. These affected my network of friends that I wish to change them all once am done with exams and defence. Someday I also taught of changing from ABE to Computer Science but I pray it turns out better with ABE.
The one thing I would change is my attitude towards education – getting more serious. My personal life, entrepreneurial courage and improve my manner of approach towards people.
My jam would be my first year results. They were so bad that when I think of them all I see is failure. The major reason was that I brought Secondary School mentality along [with me] to the University and that nearly failed me. I would improve my relationship skills and try to be the ladies’ man.
I always took university as a tech arena where you construct things. But that failed me. If I were to come around again, I would prefer to be in Electronics at FUTO but if mechanical does more practical, I would prefer that. Another important thing I would love to do is get more involved in church activities. At least turn from every Sunday man to an active church member.
Considering my own pitfalls alongside theirs, see what I might add to their comments.
I was too introverted and self-doubt-filled that I never had the opportunity to mingle with people. For you, draw a sense of belonging through friendships and openness. Get involved in school activities. Such activities can be fellowships, department/faculty gatherings, church choir and sporting activities. This does not end in school but also everywhere you go.
Friendship starts with your moments at the hostel and with your classmates. In fact, make great effort to know more people, good and bad, beautiful and ugly, fair and dark, intelligent and unintelligent. Meet a great deal of people. This will help you develop the psychology of knowing people.
Build a true support network: academic adviser, lecturers, and senior/junior colleagues. They come handy when you will need help on something around campus.
Join social clubs like Rotaract and AIESEC to help develop your leadership skills. Also do your best to take on leadership positions in school organisations and church. This will help you learn to work with people.
Apply for scholarships. You might get lucky.
On a final note, in whatever you do, avoid the school security, be an early starter – especially in studies and daily activities. Finally, to those whom this is their first time away from home, it is a newly found freedom—abi? Better behave!
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Now your turn:
As a graduate or one who is about to graduate, what will you do better if you were given a second chance? That is, with the whole knowledge and experiences you have now you are to start first year. How will you go about it; what will you do better, what will you change, what will you like to do or not do?